Showing posts with label Way of Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Way of Life. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Children born with incurable illnesses

As a women, I believe that our greatest fear is not the pain of giving birth but the fear of miscarriage or having a child with abnormalities. It is always heartbreaking when we see children suffering from illness, especially those who does not have the means to undergo treatment for their illnesses. I have always ponder if I should bear children. Why not I just adopt which will save me the misery and fear of child bearing? Furthermore, our world is already over populated and there are so many less fortunate children who needs our help. 

Then I stumbled into this book below which has shed some light into my dark hole. Lol

"Some children are born with incurable illnesses.  It is a difficult, heartbreaking situation for any parent to face this kind of karma. But everyone possesses the noble life-state of Buddhahood and born with a valuable mission. 

One mother's third daughter was born with Down syndrome.  The doctors also told her that the child had two holes in her heart.  Surgery could solve the heart problem,  but she would have to live with Down syndrome for the rest of her life.

Regardless,  the mother showered her new baby with love,  firmly believing that her child was born with an important mission in life.  Her eldest daughter,  a sixth grader,  and her second-eldest daughter,  a second grader,  also loved and cared for their new baby sister.  When their baby sister smiled,  the two sisters broke into smiles,  too.  The mother thought our new baby girl has already brought her two sisters together this way she clearly was born with a wonderful mission!"  When the baby girl made sounds or turned over in her crib or played with a toy,  everyone in the family applauded happily The second eldest daughter wrote in a composition for school: "Just seeing how hard my little sister is trying,  I feel encouraged and she's taught me that I should never give up..I'm very proud of her. No matter what happens,  as her big sister I'll protect and take care of her all my life.

The eldest daughter also wrote in a school composition. "I'm so proud to have this angelic sister who has overcome surgery and brings such joy to everyone in our family. Some children die of illness soon after being born.  But life is eternal. Encountering the Mystic Law in this existence dramatically opens the way to transforming our karma.  In a way,  it could be said that such children were born with the mission to awaken their parents and other family members.  The karmic relation of being born together as parent and child is immeasurably profound.  It is an inseparable bond.  The death of a child can lead to a deepening of faith and an expansion of life state on the part of the parent, a process that in itself could be considered as an aspect of that child's mission."


Quoted from the book Ode to Mothers by Daisaku Ikeda

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Health & Exercising

Why does people rather complain and SUFFER their own ill-health rather than fixing it by simple things like exercising?

It really bothers me to see loved ones and friends SUFFERING from ill-health and SPENDING so much time, energy and money on medicine and treatments. If you could wash and service your car regularly, why not give your health the same priority?

I have also come to realization that most people just won't change even with me constantly telling or reminding them to live healthily. So I have decided that I shouldn't be bothered to do this anymore because I don't like to be a sour nagger. However, just recently I ranted about the same topic on my facebook status and a close friend told me that he is suddenly 'awakened'. He has started walking + jogging since and I am really happy for him that he did so! :D

I am not really a health freak but I guess I am improving along the time. You can argue that I am not a vegetarian and that I am not that healthy either - I like to eat out, I drink tea/coffee, etc etc. But at least I am putting effort into exercising and eating healthily. For me, having a super health-conscious partner has really influence me a lot into healthy diet. :)

Here are two things that I do to remain healthy which is really easy to do.

1) Exercise.
You have 168 hours a week. How about just spending 2 hours a week to exercise, which is really like about 1% of your time and you'll save yourself from your 24x7 suffering. Don't you know that regular exercise will reduce/prevent your back pain, asthma, obesity, etc etc? If you really do not have the will or patience to do 1 or 2 hours of exercise, try starting small, 10 to 15 minutes perhaps?

Here's my weekly exercise routine.
Mon - Aikido (1 hour)
Tues - Hip Hop & Yoga (2 hour)
Sat - Zumba & Hip Hop (2 hour)

Once a while, I swim, jog, hike and dive.

A workout dance: The Time - Black Eyed Peas

Exercising is fun and if possible, I wanna do the routines above forever. Find something that you like so that you do not have to endure exercising but enjoy it!

2) Having healthy breakfast and sometimes, healthy lunch too.

My regular breakfast consist of:


  • 1 pc of whole meal bread with butter, jam, kaya, or cheese etc etc
  • Half-boiled egg (once or twice a week)
  • This is the most important: Blended fruits and vegetables , I like to think of it as my beauty magic potion. Mine is a combination of lemon, lettuce, apple, banana, carrot, tomato, bitter guard and potato. With so much of nutrient goodness, this is much more better to what SKII can do to your skin.

Sometimes I eat these for lunch:


Salad leaves, baby tomato and Japanese cucumber with salad dressing

Mixed fruits

Ending this post with my photo :P

Thursday, August 25, 2011

"Find What You Love," Steve Jobs' at Stanford University

Headline of the technology news today: Steve Jobs stepped down from Apple.


Here's my favourite - In his well-known commencement speech at Stanford University in 2005, he talked about his life and career and most importantly, about finding what you love to do in your life.

Here, read the text of of that address:
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.


I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?


It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.



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..And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.



It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:



Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.



None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.



Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.



My second story is about love and loss.



I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.



I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.



I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.



During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.



I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.



My third story is about death.



When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.



Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.



About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.



I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.



This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:



No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.



Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.



When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.



Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.



Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.



Thank you all very much.







Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Yes, I can!

Here's my maiden article which I wrote for Yes, I can campaign, a campaign which advocate for the prevention of unplanned pregnancy:

I couldn't be more happy to serve as their ambassador as it is a cause which I am fully supportive of :)

Here's a fun Q&A about me on Yes, I can website:



For more information on this campaign, please visit: http://www.yesican.com.my/

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Say No to Sharkfin!

Long time ago, I have already decided not to have sharkfin in the menu of my wedding day.



If you haven't already know about shark finning, here is what it is:

Shark finning means cutting off the sharks' fins, the only valuable part of its body, and flinging the poor thing back into sea.

The shark then undergoes a slow and painful death.

Needless to say, it’s a common knowledge that this is a cruel act and that the shark's population is on the verge of extinction.


All fishes are friends :) - Sharks from Finding Nemo


For the Chinese, serving shark fin soup at their wedding dinner is in the tradition. Parents especially, are often aghast at the notion of not serving this valuable food at the wedding of their sons or daughters.

If you do not serve sharkfins, does it means that your wedding is incomplete?
If you do not serve sharkfins, does it means that you are a cheapskate?
Is it wrong to replace sharkfins with other soup/food which might be more expensive that the shark fins itself? Such as scallops and suckling pigs perhaps?

There's a forum for those couples who opt not to serve sharkfins. Check out their opinions here.

Here's a response from the forum which I particularly like:
 "Initially my in-laws disagree, worry what guests will think. I responded, "Guests come to wish for our happiness and celebrate with us OR come to eat shark fin to justify their ang pow to us?". At the end, the soup (without sharkfins) was great.. and was the highlight of all 8 course menu"

Here's more reasons for not serving shark fin from this site:


So you CAN save a few sharks today by not serving them for your wedding! 
When the buying stops, the killing stops.

Like Michael Jackson said from Man in the Mirror:

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)



There is also misconception that sharks are dangerous, are man-killers and hence, deserve to be finned and boiled into a soup.

Fact #1: Each year there are about 50 to 70 confirmed shark attacks and 5 to 15 shark-attack fatalities around the world. While sharks kill fewer than 20 people a year, their own numbers suffer greatly at human hands. Between 30 and 100 million sharks die each year.

Fact #2:
Sharks-fin has no nutritional value is actually harmful since they bleach and chlorinate the fin to alter the colour and to get rid of the smell. All the taste comes from the stock that is used to make the soup and not from the shark cartilage – which is tasteless.


With the facts provided, let's us rethink the common reasons of serving shark-fins, it's because it's a glamour thing or because this dish is delicious now that you know that shark fin is tasteless and harmful.


Here's an awesome article written by Marcus Chan on the peril of shark-fin soup. 

Here's the video of an internationally award winning documentary by Rob Stewart:




Video of NBA athlete Yao Ming (姚明) addressing shark fin soup:







Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Rojak's Guide to Living Together in Harmony

You wonder a lot...
1. You wonder why your favourite Hello Kitty cup is used as a flower pot. because your mom dented it.



2. You wonder why there are 4-5 indoor slippers around the house and none is yours.
3. You wonder where your favourite Hello Kitty bath towel is. It's on the kitchen floor
4. You wonder why there are an old shirt + red welcome mat + old men's brief on your kitchen floor.

5. You wonder why your car in not where you parked it.
6. You wonder why your cat is using your bowl.
7. You wonder why you are getting a lot of sms-es from strangers enquiring about the missed call that you didn't make.
8. You wonder why you need to refill your fuel tank so frequently when you hardly drive.
9. You wonder why your cat has more cutlery than you.

The perks of living with your family :)) You've got:
1. Someone to take care torture your cat when you are away (with a bribe)
2. Someone to take care of your car and your house when you are away
3. Someone to switch off your tv and stereo when you fell asleep.
4. Someone to tar pau breakfast/lunch/dinner/supper for you.<3
5. Someone to cry together when your cat died.
6. Someone to cry together when you watch soap opera.
7. Someone who never FFK the outings that you've made.
8. Someone to pay your food/credit card/utilities/maintenance fees when you are out of job for X months.
9. Someone who never hold a grunge against you even though you have been a really badass.
10.Someone who will dash back from work to take you to clinic when you need it.
11.Someone to remind you to take your lunch even though you are already X0 years old.
12.Someone to hear your yakking about your latest hobbies and how you like/hate the astro-on-demand dramas.
13.Some to hear your incessant complaints/bitching about the weather, friends, colleagues, bosses, etc etc
14.The list goes on.


If you ask me whether I enjoy living with my family, it's a resounding yes and it will never change. End.

xoxo

Sunday, July 11, 2010

5 minutes heat

This is in respond to Gene's blog post of ‘知’ 和 ‘行’

A lot of my closed friends know me as a 5-min-heat person. Frankly, I cannot find another who can match or even close to my 5-min-heat so far.

But still, I love who I am. I may be fickle-minded but I seldom hesitate, I just do and always exploring the unknown.

Graduation Speech from Eclipse


“When we were five, they asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up. Our things were answers like astronaut, president, or in my case, princess… When we were ten, they asked us again. We answered - rock star, cowboy, or in my case, gold medalist… But now that we’ve grown up, they want a more serious answer. Well, how about this… Who the hell knows? This isn’t a time to make hard and fast decisions. This is the time to make mistakes. Take the wrong train and get stuck somewhere chill. Fall in love - a lot. Major in philosophy because there’s no way to make a career out of that. Change your mind. Then change it again because nothing is permanent. So make as many mistakes as you can. That way, someday, when they ask again what we want to be… We won’t have to guess. We’ll know.”

I totally love this speech from my favourite movie.

To be continued...(very sleepy now)

Saturday, July 10, 2010

The Art of Flying

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