Showing posts with label Inspirational. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Inspirational. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Children born with incurable illnesses

As a women, I believe that our greatest fear is not the pain of giving birth but the fear of miscarriage or having a child with abnormalities. It is always heartbreaking when we see children suffering from illness, especially those who does not have the means to undergo treatment for their illnesses. I have always ponder if I should bear children. Why not I just adopt which will save me the misery and fear of child bearing? Furthermore, our world is already over populated and there are so many less fortunate children who needs our help. 

Then I stumbled into this book below which has shed some light into my dark hole. Lol

"Some children are born with incurable illnesses.  It is a difficult, heartbreaking situation for any parent to face this kind of karma. But everyone possesses the noble life-state of Buddhahood and born with a valuable mission. 

One mother's third daughter was born with Down syndrome.  The doctors also told her that the child had two holes in her heart.  Surgery could solve the heart problem,  but she would have to live with Down syndrome for the rest of her life.

Regardless,  the mother showered her new baby with love,  firmly believing that her child was born with an important mission in life.  Her eldest daughter,  a sixth grader,  and her second-eldest daughter,  a second grader,  also loved and cared for their new baby sister.  When their baby sister smiled,  the two sisters broke into smiles,  too.  The mother thought our new baby girl has already brought her two sisters together this way she clearly was born with a wonderful mission!"  When the baby girl made sounds or turned over in her crib or played with a toy,  everyone in the family applauded happily The second eldest daughter wrote in a composition for school: "Just seeing how hard my little sister is trying,  I feel encouraged and she's taught me that I should never give up..I'm very proud of her. No matter what happens,  as her big sister I'll protect and take care of her all my life.

The eldest daughter also wrote in a school composition. "I'm so proud to have this angelic sister who has overcome surgery and brings such joy to everyone in our family. Some children die of illness soon after being born.  But life is eternal. Encountering the Mystic Law in this existence dramatically opens the way to transforming our karma.  In a way,  it could be said that such children were born with the mission to awaken their parents and other family members.  The karmic relation of being born together as parent and child is immeasurably profound.  It is an inseparable bond.  The death of a child can lead to a deepening of faith and an expansion of life state on the part of the parent, a process that in itself could be considered as an aspect of that child's mission."


Quoted from the book Ode to Mothers by Daisaku Ikeda

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Kungfu Panda - My 3rd Toastmaster speech

This is my 3rd speech under the Toastmaster Competent Communication Manual. I am so happy that I finally delivered this speech yesterday after procrastinating for almost a year. I wasn't well prepared and was pretty nervous during my delivery but I am still so happy that I DID it. It's just so hard for me to put together a speech. The title of my speech is "Kungfu Panda" based on the animated film and it's a very meaningful movie. So, though you can't see me delivering this speech in person but here's my script.

Title: “Kungfu Panda”

How many of you love to watch computer-animated film?
I am a great fan and my favourite film is the “Kungfu Panda”
Imagine my excitement when watching the film as besides being a fan of animated film, I am also a big fan of martial art.

Let me share with you what I’ve learned from watching this film. Kungfu Panda is about an oversize & bumbling panda named Po. Po was an average guy, he doesn’t seem to have any skill and talent and he was just too clumsy. Like me, he is a die-hard fan of kung fu and aspire to become a Kungfu master. His father, however, wants him take over the family noodle shop. To everyone's surprise, Po was chosen as the Dragon Warrior by the grandmaster to protect his village from the evil leopard, Tai Lung

As expected, Po was struggling in his grueling training to become a Dragon Warrior and no one even himself, believe that he could pass the test. His was despise and mocked by others for non-existence of skill. Not only that, his master even admitted, that Po was by far, his worst nightmare for a student.

His master told him, that he has yet to achieve inner peace to become a true Dragon Warrior and there was too much insecurities in him. To find inner peace, one has to undergo pain and suffering such as meditating in a cave without food and water for 50 years.

I can relate to Po as I too, have much insecurity and bad experiences that is holding me back for pursuing my dreams. "Challenging experiences break us all at some point—it breaks our bodies and minds, our hearts and egos. When we put ourselves back together, we find that we are no longer perfectly straight, but rather bent and cracked. Yet it is through these cracks that our authenticity shines. It is by revealing these cracks that we can learn to see and be seen deeply."

Recently, a friend told me that I have the inability to let myself be vulnerable and that I tried too hard to hide my flaws – my low self-esteem, my self-doubt and I was straining for others validation and acceptance. I then realized that to grow and rise, we need to embrace our flaws, our insecurities, our pain and to appreciate ourselves because that is what makes us special and strong. So fella toastmasters and friends, find your inner peace and believe in yourself.

Regardless of where we came from and our life journey to date, a far more important thing is where we are heading now and who we are becoming.” 

In Kungfu Panda, to console the distraught Po, Po’s father reveals his long-kept secret, which is the secret ingredient to his family famous noodle soup. The secret ingredient is…nothing. It means that there wasn’t any secret ingredient! Po was taken by surprise so he asked, "You mean that it’s just plain old noodle soup? You didn’t add some special sauce or something into it?" To which his father laughed and replied, Do not need to. It becomes special when you believe that it is special. Ultimately, Po found that his greatest weakness turns out to be his greatest strengths and with that, he defeated Tai Lung (the evil leopard).

The soothsayer in Kungfu Panda said “Your story may not have a happy beginning, but that doesn’t make who you are. It’s the rest of your story, who you choose to be. So, who are you and what do you choose to be?

Note: My evaluator didn't like my speech as I didn't meet the speech objective which is to "Get to the point". My evaluation is as below as you can see.
Haihs..this is so difficult but I'll try harder next time! Go! Go! Go!



Thursday, April 10, 2014

Can you forgive me?

Can you forgive me? Forgive what you may say?

In movies/dramas, there will always be the emperor’s women asking the emperor, if I did something that is very wrong, would you forgive me? Of course, every single time, without fail,  the wife or mother will be forgiven, but at a price. The smarter ones will even get a forgiveness passport so that no one can sentence them to death or to prison.

If you were to look at the person next to you, your boss, your friend, your colleague and ask the same. What is the answer going to be?

"You siao ah? Don’t you dare, I will keel you!!!"

The only person who can possibly forgive you without plotting a revenge, has to be your parent or your other half. Right? (To my only mom & hubby, I lup you long long and deep deep for loving who I was, who I am now and and for forgiving all my madness)

Why is this so different? Why can your loved ones forgive you and other couldn’t? The answer is very simple. It’s because they are not YOUR MOTHER. Period.

Or are there anyone here who has a bff and you know that she would not leave you no matter how an arse hole that you have been?

I used to have a good friend. Good enough that we would share our exam answer sheets as he sits just behind me everytime, because we had the same alphabet in our surname. Now you know why we both have good & similar grades. If we are both awful at the same subject, then it will be you die, I die (too).

The things that we done together was so fun and unforgettable.

We have been to the scariest haunted house in KL,

We have skipped tuition classes and got robbed before

(Fun is an understatement)

We have waited 2 hours for a bus that never came, and he almost throws me in the big drain for suggesting that we took the bus.

We would blow water at the mamak stall till 2am with no specific topic. I can’t even remember what we have talked about but we would have mamak session once a week for a few years. He was like my big brother.

Man, I don't know about you, but I miss the 10 years when you are part in the picture. (It's not that we have a lot of 10 years in our life right?)

It was 4 years ago then when I did something really stupid that that broke our friendship of 10 years. We have never spoken since.

I couldn’t even invite him to my wedding though I would love to.

I couldn’t attend this father funeral even though I wanted to.  A part of me die inside.

Let’s us ask ourselves, are we so great and noble that cannot forgive others for their mistakes because we never did any ourselves?

Do they deserve your forgiveness if they have said sorry?

Would you like things to be what it used to be? Was our friendship so superficial that we cannot stand the test?

I am sorry for what I did. I was wrong.

But I do not have an answer or explanation to what I did that will lessen your anger. What is done is done and I couldn't reverse it.

I guess that I will just bring this regret to my coffin. But I hope that we can see each other eye to eye again soon. I would also like to thank you for being who you are. I've learnt hard and well and when life gives you lemon, you make a lemonade. When 1 good friend is lost, you make 10 more. We just have to learn how to say bye bye, like Mariah.

#veryemopost. #Iusedtohaveabrotherandfriend #byebye

Do you have similar experience like this? Please leave a comment if you feel the same.


The lyric version:-



Thursday, February 21, 2013

My Journey with 30-Hour Famine

I am finally back from my World Vision Famine Advocate study tour to India! It was really an eye-opening experience and I really couldn't wait to share the experience here!!! But please wait till my write ups are published on World Vision website yah? =P

This was the short article which I wrote when I apply for the role of Famine Advocate, I hope that it will give you more reasons to join the 30-Hour Famine. Here it goes: 



Five years ago, I signed up for the 30-Hour Famine camp without much idea of what I am going to experience. Little did I know that the experience is going to be "life-changing”. Being in the fasting mode which I have never done before, I was horrified as being hungry was so gruelling.
We started fasting early in the morning at the stadium. By the evening, my body had already become weak and so was my mind. Each minute seem like hours when my stomach was growling. Despite the hunger, everyone participated wholeheartedly in the activities and we were in such a high-spirit! Not only that it was a lot of fun but we’ve learnt so much about absolute poverty. There were also a lot of teary eyes as we finally empathized with the sufferings of living in hunger and poverty.

The most unforgettable experience was when we had to build a shelter from scrap materials such as newspaper and water bottles. We were to imagine that our house has been ruined from a disaster and we had to build a new one. We then had to squeeze in that little shelter which we built. The organisers even had the lights switched off and put on a commotion noise to make it more real and challenging! This was the closest that I can get to living in such horrible conditions.

As the night hits, I was shivering and had a terrible numbing headache, resulting from lack of food. How could I bear the thought of others especially children having to go through the same, maybe for most of their life!

As someone who always has sufficient basic needs, it’s only now that I could finally understand how precious basic needs are and how tormenting to be lack of it. From then on, I’ve vowed that I will make a difference for the needy by volunteering and other means.

(Due to words limit, I left out the interesting part like how I screamed my heart out when my Wang Lee Hom (30-Hour Famine Ambassador) appeared from the backstage (when I was volunteering), and how I get to rub shoulders with all the interesting people...hehe. This year I hope that Van Ness Wu or Henley Hii won't be getting a deaf ear from my scream.) 

Vanness Wu

Henley Hii
So, please sign up today ok? Go to: http://famine.worldvision.com.my/

Famine Advocate 2013 Lee Ling Elle
Yes, we shall overcome hunger and poverty! 

I managed to dig out my old photos from the previous years 30-Hour Famine. 
2009
I know. Very blur photo because my phone camera wasn't very advanced then :P

Still 2009
Me and my buddy Shirley, we were in the security team. ;)

2012

 2008, with William, my favourite 30-Hour Famine MC.


Look who I found, he's Owen Yap, 8tv news presenter.

It was raining but everyone were still so upbeat!

That's all, for now.
Please please support by joining this year 30-Hour Famine, or you can also sign up as volunteer or you can  make a donation. 




Thursday, August 25, 2011

"Find What You Love," Steve Jobs' at Stanford University

Headline of the technology news today: Steve Jobs stepped down from Apple.


Here's my favourite - In his well-known commencement speech at Stanford University in 2005, he talked about his life and career and most importantly, about finding what you love to do in your life.

Here, read the text of of that address:
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.


I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?


It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.



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..And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.



It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:



Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.



None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, it's likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.



Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.



My second story is about love and loss.



I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.



I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.



I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.



During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.



I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.



My third story is about death.



When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.



Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.



About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.



I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.



This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope it's the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:



No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.



Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.



When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.



Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.



Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.



Thank you all very much.







Sunday, July 11, 2010

5 minutes heat

This is in respond to Gene's blog post of ‘知’ 和 ‘行’

A lot of my closed friends know me as a 5-min-heat person. Frankly, I cannot find another who can match or even close to my 5-min-heat so far.

But still, I love who I am. I may be fickle-minded but I seldom hesitate, I just do and always exploring the unknown.

Graduation Speech from Eclipse


“When we were five, they asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up. Our things were answers like astronaut, president, or in my case, princess… When we were ten, they asked us again. We answered - rock star, cowboy, or in my case, gold medalist… But now that we’ve grown up, they want a more serious answer. Well, how about this… Who the hell knows? This isn’t a time to make hard and fast decisions. This is the time to make mistakes. Take the wrong train and get stuck somewhere chill. Fall in love - a lot. Major in philosophy because there’s no way to make a career out of that. Change your mind. Then change it again because nothing is permanent. So make as many mistakes as you can. That way, someday, when they ask again what we want to be… We won’t have to guess. We’ll know.”

I totally love this speech from my favourite movie.

To be continued...(very sleepy now)
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